Deshae Lott

determined sojourner

Deshae downing a strawberry

FAQ: personal tastes

You enjoy the sensuous delights of food and drink. What is your favorite cuisine?

I do love to enjoy my senses, all of them.  As for food, Indian tends to be my favorite. To me, it's a nice confluence of appreciation of another culture's spiritual and culinary aesthetics. And there are ample vegetarian, high-protein options. I first tried Indian food when an Indian graduate student in the sciences came to my apartment and prepared a delicious meal for me. I was hooked. Almost two years later my Mexican-American roommate shared my love of Indian cuisine and prepared it for us often. And not long after that two Indian restaurants opened in the town where I lived. I enjoyed partaking of the cuisine there, too, as well as 20 different restaurants featuring the cuisine in U.S. cities and in London.

Your favorite restaurants are ...?

Deshae at Columbia CafeOverall, Khyber, a restaurant specializing in northern Indian cuisine in Houston. I like many different vegetarian cuisines including Greek, Italian, and Mexican. I enjoy dining out as long as nobody is smoking nearby; smoking causes me great pulmonary distress, so the new public smoking bans greatly benefit me. Locally I am a fan of the Indian restaurant Indigo, the Italian restaurants L'il Italiano and Giuseppe (Bruscia Giuseppe, the owner, is a classy chef with a radiant smile), the Greek restaurant Albasha, and some Mexican restaurants. My local favorites for cocktails are Wine Country Bistro, Zocolo and Columbia Café. These restaurants' meals and/or appetizers also prove highly satisfactory.

And your tastes in drink?

I rank Kingfisher, Shiner Bock, and Red Stripe as favorites.  I also drink Killian's and Amstel Light, but I'm not a huge fan of most beer. As far as alcohol goes, I prefer German Riesling wines, spätlese grade, at least when I'm hydrated enough to mitigate potential mucous thickening as a result of alcohol. As such, my favorite white wine under all circumstances would be champagne typically from the chardonnay grape. Lately, my tastes have been migrating more toward red wine, my personal favorites being, in order, many Argentinian malbecs, cabernet sauvignon, Makedonikos, and Emilia Lambrusco. Sometimes I enjoy a strawberry daiquiri, cosmopolitan, or other martinis. For call brand highballs, I like a Crown and Seven, Captain Morgan and (Diet) Coke, or vodka with a (Diet) Coke.

Given your joy of life and that you are married yet disabled with a body externally of which few parts can move and internally where you breathing has failed, can you ...

Yes! Unlike paralysis, with muscular dystrophy you retain your feeling. When I entered puberty I decided that given my genetic disability I never would marry and have children and thus did not expect ever to have sexual relations. But my husband changed my mind in terms of my receptivity to sexual activity. However, pregnancy would prove particularly dangerous to me. Moreover, if my child was born alive, he or she also would inherit my faulty gene. Despite my respect for motherhood and the miracle of all life, to date I have not felt conception the wiser choice for me and those who would be influenced by my pregnancy and motherhood. However, this does not deter me from pleasurable, mutually respectful sexual relations with my spouse. Additionally, from a clinical perspective, sexual activity with a spouse or committed partner or by your own means provides useful benefits for somebody in my condition; for example, it is one of the few ways I can get significant cardio-vascular exercise. Some females with MD have asked Jeff and me for tips on sexual intercourse.  Typically we do not mind responding to sincere queries about aspects of sexual activities from my perspective and experience as a severely disabled woman, and also those as a couple. In fact, given researchers’ interest in sexual responses of disabled people, I was asked to conduct and summarize a study about it that was published.